Divorce and Social Media: What to Avoid Posting

Divorce and Social Media: What to Avoid Posting

In today’s digital world, social media plays a major role in our daily lives. But if you are going through a divorce, what you post online can quickly turn into legal evidence—or worse, a major complication. Whether you are venting, sharing a night out, or even trying to update friends and family, your posts may be scrutinized by attorneys, judges, and your former spouse.

Here is what you need to know about what to avoid posting on social media during a divorce—and why it matters.

1. Avoid Discussing the Divorce Itself

It might be tempting to share your side of the story, especially if emotions are high or you feel misunderstood. But public posts about your divorce—no matter how vague or subtle—can backfire.

Why to avoid it:

• It may affect settlement negotiations or custody decisions
• It can escalate conflict with your ex-spouse
• Anything you say can be used against you in court

What to do instead:
Talk to a therapist, close friend, or attorney in a private setting.

2. Do Not Post About Your Ex (or Their New Partner)

Criticizing, mocking, or even vaguely referencing your ex (or their new partner) on social media is a fast track to more tension and potential legal headaches.

Why to avoid it:

• It may harm co-parenting arrangements
• It undermines your credibility and maturity in court
• It could be viewed as harassment or defamation

Tip: Stay neutral. If you can’t post something constructive, don’t post it at all.

3. Be Careful With Photos—Especially of Parties, Vacations, or New Relationships

Posting photos of you drinking, partying, or on vacation can be taken out of context and used to argue:

• You’re financially stable and do not need alimony
• You are prioritizing your social life over your children
• You’re irresponsible as a parent

And when it comes to new relationships? Courts may not formally factor adultery into divorce proceedings in many states (including no-fault states like New Jersey), but a new partner appearing too soon can raise questions—especially in custody battles.

4. Do Not Reveal Financial Information

Sharing anything about your income, bonuses, expensive purchases, or job updates might work against you in court.

Example pitfalls:

• A photo of your new car during a dispute over spousal support
• Posting about a raise while claiming you cannot afford child support
• Vacation pictures during arguments about asset division

Best practice: Keep your financial details offline. Even “humble brags” can be damaging.

5. Avoid Location Check-Ins and Geotags

You may not think twice about tagging your favorite restaurant or checking in at a weekend getaway, but this information can be used to paint a picture of your lifestyle and priorities—accurate or not.

Especially important: If you have a restraining order or sensitive custody case, public check-ins can raise safety or concerns about your judgment.

Final Tips for Social Media During Divorce

• Set your profiles to private, but do not rely on privacy settings alone—screenshots can still circulate.
• Avoid accepting new friend requests from people you do not know well. Some may be connected to your ex or gathering information.
• Think before you post—ask yourself: Would I be okay with a judge seeing this? Would it be okay if this post was read out loud in court or to my mediator?

When in Doubt, Stay Offline

The best way to avoid social media mistakes during a divorce? Take a break. Temporarily logging off can help you stay focused, avoid missteps, and prioritize your emotional and legal well-being.

Remember, once something is online, it is difficult to take back. A few seconds of venting can cost you months in court.

Contact Lawrence Law Attorneys for Your Divorce

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The content of this blog is intended for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice or establish an attorney-client relationship. For personalized legal guidance, please contact our firm directly.