The holiday season is often a time of joy, celebration, and family traditions—but for divorced or separated parents, it can also be one of the most emotionally and logistically challenging times of the year. Parenting plans, which are court-approved agreements outlining how co-parents share custody and responsibilities, play a crucial role in maintaining peace and clarity. But as the holidays approach, you may find yourself asking: Should I modify my parenting plan before the holidays?
Here is what you need to consider before making a decision.
Many parenting plans include specific holiday schedules that override the regular custody arrangement. However, families evolve—kids get older, traditions change, and parents may move or remarry. Ask yourself:
If the answer to any of these questions is “no,” it might be time to revisit the plan.
Some co-parents manage holiday arrangements with informal agreements, trusting each other to communicate and adjust as needed. Others find it more helpful to have every detail documented and enforceable.
If informal agreements have worked in the past but you are sensing tension this year—or if one parent is suddenly less cooperative—it may be safer to formalize any changes. A modified parenting plan can help avoid last-minute disputes and reduce stress for everyone involved, especially the children.
Modifying a parenting plan is about agreeing with your co-parent. If there is not an agreement, a court will make the decision. This is especially true for significant changes or if one parent doesn’t agree to the new terms.
You should consult a family law attorney if:
Courts tend to prioritize the best interests of the child. Your proposed changes should support stability, emotional well-being, and family connection.
Courts can get backed up, especially toward the end of the year. If you are considering modifying your plan for the upcoming holiday season, do not wait until November or December—start early. If you are already close to the holidays, a temporary agreement between both parents (in writing) is faster, more practical short-term solution.
Above all, any changes to your parenting plan should be made with your child’s best interests at heart. Children thrive on routine and knowing what to expect. Disagreements between parents can cause anxiety or sadness during what should be a joyful time.
The holidays should be a time of comfort and connection. If your current parenting plan feels like more of a burden than a benefit during this season, a thoughtful modification could make a big difference. Whether through legal channels or mutual agreement, being proactive and collaborative can help ensure a smoother, more joyful holiday for everyone—especially your children.
Contact us to help modify your parenting plan at (908) 645-1000 or through our contact form.
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