Accreditations Certified Matrimonial Attorney, New Jersey Supreme Court , 1998
Accredited Professional Mediator, NJ Association of Professional Mediators, 1997 – Present
Completed AAML Arbitration Training , 2013
Professional Affiliations
Association for Advancement of Collaborative Practice, Co-President/Member 2015Segal v. Lynch – co-authored amicus brief on behalf of NJ-AFCC 2012Vicinage XIII Inn of Court, Steering Committee/Member 2010 – 2014New Jersey Collaborative Law Group, Board Member, Secretary/Chair and Co-Chair, Education Committee/Member 2009 – 2014NJ Supreme Court, Testified in support of establishing a Parenting Coordination Court Rule 2007 – PresentNew Jersey State Bar Association Family Law Executive Committee, 2007-PresentNew Jersey State Bar Association, Chair of the Children’s Rights SubcommitteeNew Jersey State Bar Association, Chair of the Parenting Coordination Task ForceDistrict XIII Ethics Committee Chair/Vice-Chair/Member, 1998 – 2001New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators Member, 1996-Present; Trustee, 1997-2001Central Jersey Family Inn of Court Member, Steering Committee and Master, 1996 – 1999Somerset County Custody Mediation Program Co-founder and Custody Mediator, 1995 – PresentNew Jersey State Bar Association Member, 1994 – PresentSomerset County Bar Association Member, 1993 – Present; President 2013 – 2014; Chair and Co-Chair of Family Law CommitteeMatrimonial Early Settlement Panel, Hunterdon and Somerset Counties Panelist, 1991 – PresentAssociation of Family and Conciliation Courts NJ Chapter, President-Elect, 2015 – 2016, Treasurer, 2009 – 2015; Member, 2004 – Present
Presentations
Panelist, “Children Caught in the Crossfire: Helping Professionals Respond to Their Needs” AFCC NJ’s Annual Meeting & Seminar, April 2, 2025
Trainer, moderator and speaker “16-hour Specialized Parenting Coordination training” ICLE June 2024
Faculty, Basic Mediation Training, ICLE February 2024 and October 2024
Panelist, “Collaborative Family Law” Barry I. Croland Inn of Court, January 2024
Speaker/Panelist, “Basic Interdisciplinary Collaborative Divorce Training,” ICLE and NJ Council of Collaborative Practice Groups November 2023.
Speaker, ICLE Summer Institute, “Parenting Coordination and Mediation” July 2023
Speaker, “Drug Use, Divorce and Child Custody,” ICLE Spring Conference March 2023
Speaker, “Hot Topics in Mediation and Arbitration Including Ethical Issues for Attorneys, Mediators and Arbitrators,” Hudson County Bar Association March 2023
Faculty, “40-hour Mediation Training and Advanced Mediation Training”, ICLE 2014 to 2023
Advanced Matrimonial Mediation Workshop, New Jersey State Bar Association Webcast, December 8, 2022.
Panelist, “Sea of Heartbreak-Drafting Issues in Agreements that Will Be Sought to Be Enforced in the Family Part” “Co-habitation Agreements,” NJSBA Mid-Year Meeting November 2022
Panelist, “The Impact of COVID on Family Law and Mental Health Professionals and the Families We Serve,” AFCC-NJ, October 2022
“Guardians Ad Litem – How They Work and How to Get Appointed”, New Jersey State Bar Association, September 29, 2022.
“Guardians Ad Litem: Who Can Serve, What Can They Do and How Can They Be Used?”, New Jersey State Bar Association Annual Meeting, May 19, 2022.
Advanced Matrimonial Mediation Workshop, New Jersey State Bar Association, May 4, 2022.
Speaker, “Deciding What’s Next – Accreditation? Standards? Protocols?” NJ Collaborative Law Group, 2022 Retreat, Lambertville, NJ, May 2022
“What’s Next in Collaborative Practice? Accreditation, Protocols, Standards?”, New Jersey Collaborative Law Group 2022 Retreat, May 2, 2022.
Speaker/Panelist, “Unique Child Support Scenarios,” Somerset County Bar Association, February 2021
Speaker/Panelist, “Custody Outside the Box,” ICLE Family Law Symposium, January 2021
“Child-inclusive Mediation” New Jersey Chapter of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts – Development and Issues that Arise in Divorcing Families, October 19, 2021
Collaborative Law and ADR – Presentation to the Garibaldi Inn of Court, October 14, 2021
Speaker, “Terminating Representation in a Family Law Matter,” ICLE Hot Tips Seminar, November 2019
Speaker, “Hot Tips for Direct Examination of a Custody Expert,” ICLE Hot Tips Seminar November 2017
Speaker, “The Dilemma of Determining Child Support When Children Leave for College,” Family Law Symposium January 2017
Speaker, “Parenting Coordination in New Jersey after the Pilot Program and Milne v. Goldenberg,” ICLE Hot Tips Seminar November 2016.
Speaker, “Cutting Edge Issues in Custody Evaluations”, ICLE Family Law Symposium, 2016
Speaker, “Protecting Communications Made Prior to Signing a Collaborative Participation Agreement”, ICLE Hot Tips Seminar, 2015
Speaker, “Resources for Domestic Violence Victims and Their Families”, NJSBA and SCBA, 2015
Instructor and Guest Lecturer, Collaborative Family Law and ADR, Rutgers School of Law – Newark, 2015
Instructor, Rutgers School of Law – Newark – guest lecturer on Collaborative Family Law and Alternate Dispute Resolution, October 2015
Moderator/Speaker, “Professionalism in Family Law – The Ethics of Steering Your Client in the Right Direction,” Somerset County Bar Association, October 12, 2015
Moderator/Speaker, “Professionalism in Family Law – The Ethics of Steering Your Client in the Right Direction”, SCBA, 2015
Faculty, Mediation Training, ICLE, 2014
Moderator and Speaker, Advanced Mediation Training, May 2014, March 2016, May 2018, May 2019, December 2019, May 2020, November 2020
Speaker, “Use of Guardian Ad Litem for Parties Not Represented by Counsel”, ICLE Hot Tips Seminar, 2014
Moderator, “Pet Peeves in Family Law”, NJSBA, 2014
Speaker, “The Neurobiology of Addiction: Implications for Families and Children in Custody Cases”, NJ-AFCC, 2014
Speaker and Moderator, Parenting Coordination Workshop, ICLE, 2013
Speaker/Panelist, “Joint Custody: Fact or Fiction?”, NJSBA Annual Meeting, 2013
Speaker and moderator, “Parent Coordination Training,” ICLE March 2013
Speaker/Panelist, “Ethics in the Law”, Somerset County Bar Association, 2012
Speaker, “Use of Guardian Ad Litem Appointments for Adults in Family Law Matters”, AFCC-NJ, 2012
Speaker, “The Child Specialist-In or Out of the Collaborative Model”, AFCC-NJ, 2012
Speaker/Panelist, “Family Attorney as Diagnostician and Process Shaper”, ICLE, 2012
Speaker, “The Disposition of Pre-embryos: To Be or Not to Be?”, ICLE Hot Tips Seminar, 2012
Instructor, “Collaborative Law 2-day Training”, ICLE, 2011-2014
Speaker/Panelist, “Ethics in the Law”, Somerset County Bar Association, 2011 – 2012
Moderator/Speaker, “Ethics in the Law”, Somerset County Bar Association, 2011
Speaker, “Motions to Modify Support”, Somerset County Bar Association, 2010
Speaker, “Arbitration in Family Matters”, Somerset County Bar Association, 2010
Speaker, “Savings as a Component of Marital Life Style”, FLEC Meeting, 2010
Speaker, “Alternatives/Precursors to Full Custody Evaluations”, ICLE, 2010
Speaker, “Enforcement of Anti-Lepis Provisions, NJSBA Annual Meeting”, 2009
Speaker, “Calculating Child Support in Equal Shared Parenting Cases”, ICLE, 2009
Speaker, “Modification of Support in the Current Economic Climate”, ICLE, 2009
Speaker, “Tax Issues in Divorce, Somerset County Bar Association”, 2007
Speaker, “Ethical Issues in Representing Children”, ICLE, 2006
Speaker, “Divorce and Taxes, Alimony and Taxes”, NJ Society of CPA’s, NJAPM and ICLE, 2006
Speaker, “Alimony and Tax Issues” N.J.A.P.M. Annual Conference October 2006
Speaker, “Recent Developments in Family Law”, Association of Divorce Financial Planners, 2005
Speaker, “Comparative Family Law”, Association of Divorce Financial Planners, 2004
Speaker, “Alimony and Child Support”, NJAPM Advanced Divorce Mediation Seminar, 2004
Speaker, “Family and Divorce Mediation”, Somerset County Bar Association, 2001
Speaker, “Structure and Use of Court Mediation Programs”, NJAPM, 2000
Moderator & Presenter, “Financial Planning in Divorce, Mediation”, Hot Tips, ADR Day and NJAPM Annual Conference 1999
Moderator & Presenter, Child Support Guidelines Seminar, Somerset County Bar Association, 1998
Publications/Articles
“Adolescent Development and Issues that Arise In Divorcing Families”, New Jersey Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, October 19, 2021.
“Guardians, Guardians Ad Litem, Law Guardians and Parenting Coordinators: What You Need to Know” – New Jersey State Bar Association Annual Convention, May 20, 2021.
“Summary of Significant Changes to the 2016 NJ Court Rules Affecting Family Practice,” The Clarion, Somerset County Bar Association, Fall, 2015
“Custody and Parenting Time/Visitation Plans: What Are They and Why Do We Need Them?,” New Jersey Family Lawyer, Vol. 36, No. 1, August, 2015
“Alimony and Taxes,” New Jersey Family Lawyer, Vol. 33, No. 1, June , 2012 (co-author with Jeffrey Urbach, CPA)
“The Do’s and Don’ts of Mediation and Arbitration,” New Jersey Family Lawyer, Vol. 27 No. 2 October, 2006 (co-author with Amy Z. Shimalla, Esq.)
“Imputing Income to Assets,” New Jersey Family Lawyer, Vol. 18 No. 7 Nov/Dec., 1998 (co-author with Melissa G. Schiffman, Esq.)
Are You Still Responsible to Pay Child Support for Your High School Graduate?
Child Custody, Co-Parenting and Decision-Making
Does Social Science Research Support a Presumption of 50-50 Physical Custody
Financial Literacy and Divorce
Is 50-50 Parenting Time Presumed?
The Importance of Sibling Relationships in Custody and Parenting Time Determinations
Awards & Recognition
Amy Wechsler was recognized in New York Area’s Best Lawyers 2026 for work in: Family Law and Family Law Mediation. A description of the selection methodology can be found here. Amy Wechsler has been nominated for NJ Family’s Best New Jersey Lawyers for Families Campaign for 2026. Amy Wechsler was recognized in the “2026 Best Lawyers in America” list on August 21, 2025. A description of the selection methodology can be found here. Chosen as Super Lawyer 2005 – 2025Chosen by Best Lawyers 2020 – 2024Chosen as a Top 100 Lawyers in NJ by NJ Monthly Magazine 2014 – 2015, 2017Chosen as Top 50 Women Lawyers in NJ by NJ Monthly Magazine 2010, 2011, 2014, 2017, 2018, 2019, 2020, 2021Phil Sobel Award — NJ-Association of Family and Conciliation Courts 2019Professional Lawyer of the Year, Somerset County 2005 Recipient
The Super Lawyers List is issued by Thompson Reuters. A description of the selection methodology can be found here . Visit here
